To Do Myself
I have often wondered about people saying they used their hands to destroy themselves
I wonder no more
I am an epitome of it
I have been happily married for a little over five years. My husband is a perfect gentleman, sweet, caring and generous. I got more than I ever hoped for, in a life partner. Most importantly, I got peace.
I have two kids, a boy and a girl, spitting images of their father.
But one very sunny day, my world came crashing down with rapidity, when my father in law came to spend time with us
I had never met him before because he had been in the United States of America for many years with occasional visits to Nigeria. He was unable to make it to our wedding due to work related reasons.
And so when Heartbeat( the endearment I use for my husband) told me his father will be coming for vacation, I was excited.
I set about getting a cleaning agency to give the house a monumental shine( these obodo oyinbo people can be so finicky, and I wanted to create a good impression).I went shopping for all manner of food stuffs and stocked the freezer with everything edible.
Husband went to pick Grandpa up at the airport that sunny Saturday morning, while we waited almost with bated breathe at home.
I rushed out to greet Grandpa immediately the cat revved into the compound, but I stood rooted to the ground, dumb with speechlessness when I saw him, My university sugar daddy!
All the introductions my hubby was trying to make were like from a distance. Grandpa instantly recognised me too, I noticed the startled expression on his face and in slow motion, the calculated look in his eyes.
I managed to go through the motions, I greeted and hugged him.My hubby finally noticed how pale my pallor was, and enquired as to my state of health in his usual concerned way, I just mumbled something,dismissively.
Hmmmm, my conscience is killing me.
How do I tell husband that it was his father that disvirgined me in university. The sordidness of the relationship, I do not want to remember, yet my conscience will not let me rest.
If I confess, won’t it destroy the relationship between father and son, and wreck my marriage? I cannot bear for my husband to look at me with contempt.
Just what do I do?
I wonder no more
I am an epitome of it
I have been happily married for a little over five years. My husband is a perfect gentleman, sweet, caring and generous. I got more than I ever hoped for, in a life partner. Most importantly, I got peace.
I have two kids, a boy and a girl, spitting images of their father.
But one very sunny day, my world came crashing down with rapidity, when my father in law came to spend time with us
I had never met him before because he had been in the United States of America for many years with occasional visits to Nigeria. He was unable to make it to our wedding due to work related reasons.
And so when Heartbeat( the endearment I use for my husband) told me his father will be coming for vacation, I was excited.
I set about getting a cleaning agency to give the house a monumental shine( these obodo oyinbo people can be so finicky, and I wanted to create a good impression).I went shopping for all manner of food stuffs and stocked the freezer with everything edible.
Husband went to pick Grandpa up at the airport that sunny Saturday morning, while we waited almost with bated breathe at home.
I rushed out to greet Grandpa immediately the cat revved into the compound, but I stood rooted to the ground, dumb with speechlessness when I saw him, My university sugar daddy!
All the introductions my hubby was trying to make were like from a distance. Grandpa instantly recognised me too, I noticed the startled expression on his face and in slow motion, the calculated look in his eyes.
I managed to go through the motions, I greeted and hugged him.My hubby finally noticed how pale my pallor was, and enquired as to my state of health in his usual concerned way, I just mumbled something,dismissively.
Hmmmm, my conscience is killing me.
How do I tell husband that it was his father that disvirgined me in university. The sordidness of the relationship, I do not want to remember, yet my conscience will not let me rest.
If I confess, won’t it destroy the relationship between father and son, and wreck my marriage? I cannot bear for my husband to look at me with contempt.
Just what do I do?
Oh wow. Never saw that coming! But didn't she get to see pictures of her father-in-law before now?
ReplyDeleteShe actually didn't get to see his pictures.It was a whirlwind wedding, they met and got married within a month,only visiting the mother once in the village
DeleteBittersweet and great work of truthful flash fiction from the narrator who s good at it and diligent in assuring more episodes....So watch out for more Wows.
DeleteI will advice you confess to your husband. Although, all hell may be loose but if truely, he loves you, he should find a place in his heart to forgive U.
ReplyDeleteUhmmm, just snuggle it and move on,like nothing happened before,the baba too,being a culprit ought to be intelligent enough to do same...without being expressive...life continues..
ReplyDeleteABI???
Hmm...
ReplyDeleteThis is more a case of 'when the past comes calling'...
Complicated and difficult, but ... might be better for her to just come clean on the whole issue..
It would be easier if she'd already told hubby a few things about her past..
First discuss it with the old man since both of you are culprits..Then bring it up with your husband prayerfully ..your conscience will be clear ..prepare for the mess but you will be out of it .We all have our past including the now wonderful husband you have...Best of luck !!
ReplyDeleteComplicated....but it will continue eating her up if she doesn't tell her husband. But sth might happen in that family. But in the long run, it's better.
ReplyDeleteBoomerang!
ReplyDeleteWhen your past comes back to hurt you.
Intriguing piece but like someone asked, is it possible that none of them would have seen each other's pictures?
So unfortunate...my advice to the Mrs.....HUSH....u don't know grandpa.....
ReplyDelete😲😮
ReplyDeleteI am truly speechless
DeleteJust Keep Quiet
ReplyDeleteThe truth is that she should tell her husband and let them settle it because if the father says it she would loose everything entirely
ReplyDeleteShe has to tell him herself, it isn't easy buh what's worth doing is worth doing well so she should tell him nd bear whatever would come out of it.
Madam should be prayerful before taking any decision.
ReplyDeleteDivine wisdom and guidance are required.
Interesting. Better to let it all out on the table. Otherwise the hubby may find out another way and it'll be worse. Let it all out, and if it destroys the marriage, it's not the end of the world. It's nothing new under the sun. It's the past and everyone has a past.
ReplyDeleteNice write up
ReplyDeleteSincerely it is a difficult situation. She should pray and ask God what to do. This will take some days. If she is a Christian, she could approach her pastor and that can help her out.
ReplyDeletePrayer is the solution.
ReplyDeleteThat's an unfortunate coincidence.
ReplyDeleteI am speechless here
ReplyDeleteThe best way of settling things like this is not easy firstly pray and fast about it and ask ur God 4 divine intervention what comes of it the lady in question should be able to bear the consequences, bcs that is not the end of life bcs if the husband get to know elsewhere you wouldn't be able to face the consequences ooooo.
ReplyDeleteIt is better she confesses to the husband than the husband getting to know or finding out from another source. Everybody has got his past but first, it must be done prayerfully and if d hubby truly loves her, it can be settled amicably.
ReplyDeletePretend nothing ever happened
ReplyDeleteYeah.Nit unexampled!
DeleteI meant to write in my last post Not unexampled.
DeleteOn this road ..we see all sorts...well as they say in the gathering of drunks..one for the road..and both go their separate ways..lol
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeletePray about it and ask for God's intervention discuss with your husband about it if really he loves you he will forgive you surrender completely to the Lordship of Jesus Christ and move with your husband.
ReplyDeleteWhy should she open up unwanted Pandora box?
DeleteDo you know where& when & how her hubby meet her?Or possibly snatch her with her super wealth from someone else?
Be that as it is, it happened in the past but this is the present. That's why we are told to discuss the part with our fiance before marriage. If she had told him about her first sex, it would be easy to say, your Dad was the person but if she had formed clean then it would be a big issue. Nevertheless,let her pray and of course MUST let the cat out if the bag before her hubby hears it elsewhere. Who knows? One if her friends might just check in tomorrow who had known both( the lady and Granpa) in the past
ReplyDeleteNo. Yes but very unlikely.Whst of those who circumstantially Marty 2 or 3 hubbies in a life time in local & exotic culture?
DeleteErrata in my lady post:
DeleteI meant marry not Marty
I meant to type what. ..
. apologia
This is an excellent write of a story.
ReplyDeleteI advice the lady opens up to her husband on the issue. Looks like it's bound to open up anyways - just a matter of time.
I will advice her to discuss it with the grandpa, if the grandpa didn't raise any issue with her she should just let it go. Afterall grandpa is not base in the country with them but if otherwise she should tell her husband
ReplyDelete..except the lady is not disciplined and try to secretly provoke more amorous affairs within that in-law crucible then she s leading herself to forced ejection from that covetous marital home with all the luxuries not common elsewhere!
DeleteShe should not even try to steal any kiss nor appear center staged in hospitality chores except getting busy at the pantry!All these precautions are necessary only if the Grandpa is still the randy Guy.If not he d be matured enough bn it to topple his son s household marital home.
Sugar daddies aren't for ever for the sensible lovers on both sides of the coin!
Maybe she should just leave like he has never meet the father in-law before. Since she don't want anything to happen between father and son
ReplyDeleteThere are some pasts that should remain in the past. Just ensure there is no repetition of it, telling your husband is definitely gonna ruin your marriage cos the imaginative image of both you and his dad will never leave his head.
ReplyDeleteDon't try discussing it with your husband. It is in the past, let it remain there. Am sure he equally has his own past. Think of the relationship you will break if you bring it up (father-son relationship) and it could eventually end your marriage. Bear it in mind that men don't reason the way women do. It's easier for women to forgive such than men.
ReplyDeleteShe better tell the husband the truth. If it works fine if not carry your cross. People no like to take responsibility for their actions. That is not a past to be hidden from your spouse. Sex bonds no matter how long.
ReplyDeleteWhay sort of confession?
ReplyDeleteSh didn't commit the wahala in the marriage nau!
I understand her pains though...